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There is so much value in having friends of the opposite sex and, in turn, dating before settling down, if not just as an exercise to learn more about yourself.
So, once I overcame my diffident ways and grew more comfortable around boys my age, one of my absolute favourite things to do was go on dates.
The day I came to realise that there is no precedent for this, I started to relax a lot more about it.
Whether you are first or second generation British or just have traditional parents, guess what?
So, the traditional Pakistani and Muslim approach to marriage was never going to work for me.
I wanted the big, sweeping love story, star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliet of it all (without the double suicide at the end, obviously).
I can identify with Pakistani culture as well as the culture and traditions of the religion I was raised in but; I do enjoy a good whiskey, used to smoke like a chimney, I collect really rubbish songs on vinyl like Bruce Willis’ timeless classic “Respect Yourself”, I love to knit, I make a killer steak and kidney pie and, like many other women in the UK, karaoke bars are also my secret shame.
I am a small, loud, brown lady who writes a comedy blog about love, life, dating and relationships and how this entwines with my cultural and religious identity.I also write about interfaith marriage and my very lovely, often comedic, life with my husband “Bob”.I am a British born, Pakistani, Muslim woman and, if you are anything like me, you will know that these are three incredibly complex states of being to juggle in unison and, short of one being a multi-limbed octopus lady, can rarely be satisfied fully at one time.I grew up idolising women like Sarah Connor, Ripley from Aliens and, Goddamnit, even Mary Poppins.Exposure to such strong female role models and, more notably, my own fiercely intelligent and academically accomplished mother, charged me with the most profound yearning to have a more deliberate hand in my future.
Dating does not have to mean sleeping around, nor does it mean you are going to Hell for exploring your options.